This is one of my biggest difficulties. I think that problems are something I am supposed to stop. I think there is something inside of me that tells me when I am having problems, I am not loveable. They become more like punishments rather than stepping stones to another life.
Somehow, I have been looking at the problems as a sign that I am not good enough. There is a small part of me that believes that I deserve the troubles that I am faced with. I am realizing that I am asking the wrong questions. I am asking "why me?" instead of "why not me?"
What makes me different from everyone else? We all have our share of trouble in this life. When we are in the midst of our battles, it is easy to get caught up in how difficult they are. We all have heartbreak, we all have messiness, we all have life changing events. We all have trials that nearly overwhelm us. We are all faced with things that are hard to bear.
My trials are not better or worse than yours. But they are different. They are hard for me right here and right now. And you don't know what it is that I have gone through, am going through or will go through in my life.
But He does.
He does not allow us to experience problems to stop us, but rather to change us. He doesn't cause our problems, but He does allow us to make our own choices. He allows those around us to make their choices too. I have gained strength and compassion with the problems I have encountered in my life. I cannot say that I am grateful for them, but I am grateful for the overcoming of them. I am grateful for the person that I have become. I am grateful for the life changes that I have made with His guidance. I am working on changing the way I look at my own problems.
If I look at them as guidelines, what are they leading me toward or away from? What do I need to learn, or what can I learn from the situation? Often, I can't change the problems, but I can change the way I am viewing them. I can change how I perceive them. I can change myself.