If you are on a common,
continuous search to be offended,
you will always find what you're looking for; even when it isn't there.
It is easy to be offended. It is easy to be provoked. It is easy to look for the negative with all the stresses in this life we lead. All I have to do is stand behind a counter, or drive down the road and I manage of offend someone.
I attended a conference where a councilor spoke about how we take things personally, and about the way we respond to anger and yelling and gestures. She spoke about being happy, and about how it was possible, no matter what place in life you find yourself.
So, I made myself a promise. I would try to be kinder in the words that I speak. I would try to choose to act instead of react to the problems that I face. I would lower my voice when I am angry instead of raising it to be heard. This has been a week of experimenting.
I have discovered that when someone is yelling, if I lower my voice, they lower theirs. I have found that saying "I'm sorry" goes along way toward calming down a disgruntled customer. I am experiencing the results of my own kindness.
When I search for the good in others, I find it. If there is a misunderstanding, I am trying to straighten it out as soon as I realize it happened. I am learning that it is up to me to choose what I find in life. If I look for offense, it is all around me, and I am miserable because of it. If I look for kindness, it is also all around me, and I am happier for seeing it in others.
I am learning that it is up to me to decide what I am looking for.
Mormon 9:31 Condemn me not because of mine imperfection, neither my father, because of his imperfection, neither them who have written before him; but rather give thanks unto God that he hath made manifest unto you our imperfections, that ye may learn to be more wise than we have been.